Had a recent post on here about how I have been second-guessing my interactions with Jenny about a year ago. There was still another task that I wanted to complete. I was asked for some graveyard dirt from her grave. It’s about a two hour drive each way, so it was doable. I expected to be heading down South for another class, like my first visit. Once Hawaii was a “go”, this wasn’t going to happen. Yet I felt “now” was the time.
Being this was the Friday before Easter and that most of the cemeteries I was looking to go to are going to be closed on Easter, I wasn’t sure if this would be a better day to go or not since not everybody has to work today. It’s spring break time in Maryland but this isn’t in Maryland. Wasn’t sure if there would be more or fewer people there today.
Before I started typing that article last night I already knew that as long as I woke up and felt okay or well enough to drive, I was going to go forth. It’s been hanging over my head for a while now and I really wanted to get this completed.
And there’s a little bit more to the story with regards to having to complete this. I can’t remember if I said it on here or not, but the Fae Queen had been a little distant after I finally signed the orders to go back to Hawaii in June. She had told me eventually that she was upset because she didn’t think I would be coming back to this house. No, I’m not selling this house, so I don’t know what that really means and she wouldn’t elaborate. She’s concerned that I’ll probably stay in Hawaii, but that really isn’t my goal at all. Hawaii is nice, but it’s a stepping stone for my future ambitions in the next 5 to 10 years. After that I don’t know. If some miracle happens and I can somehow retire then maybe I will just buy some underdeveloped plot somewhere and make some primitive campsite for people to come visit Hawaii (more) cheaply. Hard to say, but we’ll need this house to send my son to a better school, so there are no plans to sell it.
In case that it was true and I didn’t return, it kind of put me in a bit of a bind with regards to my goals that I still had for Jenny and her living relatives. So even though I wasn’t really 100% or even 80% well, I knew I had to make the trek if it was possible and get it done. So I did.
I didn’t really get to walk around the graveyards like I like to. I went to several today and even though I’ve been to the one before it’s not like I had walked around at extensively due to my battery draining rapidly and still needed to travel further that day. Didn’t really get to do that much today, but I did get to see a couple of graves that I thought were cool.
More importantly I swiped the dirt that I needed to swipe.
I did leave flowers at all the graves I went to today for my friend. I wasn’t just grabbing dirt and calling it good. I left grapes, cherries, peach tea, and flowers. At the other graveyard I still handed out the remaining grapes, cherries, and tea. But the flowers were my friends family only. I did get to see two graves that have my last name on them and one of them has the same initials as my grandfather, but there was about a 40 year difference between the death of one and the birth of the other in different states. Still, I paid my respects.
I was exhausted driving home and knew I wouldn’t be getting anything done on Saturday to try to recover for work on Monday. It was pretty productive for my real tasks, but not for enjoying the graveyards on the whole. I did feel the weight of responsibility lift and whether I come back to Maryland or not is moot. That’s a relief.
I have seen several of those deceased relatives of my friend’s family here at my home. They had been invited and came for some offerings I was going to make for the dead. Nice folks. A family member of my own had passed recently and also came with some of those he knew from my family. It was rewarding to see and these types of moments make me grateful for being able to work with and for the living and the dead as I do.
